Hi Alex,
My name is Leticia Carlton from Memphis. I have been going to marriage counseling for the past three years. My husband and I have two beautiful children, but have a problem that just seems not to go away. We are both in our second marriages. We are consistently fighting over minor issues. We have both attended counseling and sought relationship advice. This does not seem to work. I feel I have come to the end of the rope.
Why has the relationship or counseling advice not worked? Where are we going wrong? I want this relationship to work and need your help to steer us towards the right direction.
Leticia.
Dear Leticia,
Thank you for asking this great question. I appreciate the fact that you are trying to find the source of the problem, and this is a great starting point. I appreciate the fact that your husband goes with you to get counseling. This means that he also wants the problem to be solved. However, I would have loved to get more information from both you and your husband. Leticia, could it be that you may be carrying some baggage from your previous relationships without knowing it? Take a self reflection and find out if you can identify anything in your past that may be hurting your marriage. Could it be that you are not communicating or listening well, since you say that you are always fighting over minor issues? Sometimes, what seems minor to you may be major to your spouse, and vice versa! With the little information you’ve given me, I will recommend that you read the, 10 Steps to Success in Love and Marriage. This book will help you identify where you could be going wrong. This book shares over 40,000 years of other people’s experiences. It is the one relationship book that teaches the base knowledge you need in order to build a joyful family. You will learn the success mindsets you need to possess in order to become a better spouse, and to create a rich and fulfilling love relationship. Once you’ve read this book, and the problems still exist, then I will volunteer an hour of free consultation and advice. I wish you the best love, and don’t give up on Building a Joyful Family. Please keep me updated on your progress.
Alex, the Love Teacher
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Leticia,
1. Your approach is not working, you have to change it. Seriously! The 10 Steps to Success in Love and Marriage, is the one book that I know will help you to understand how men think, and this is important to be able to agree on issues and live in peace.
2. The other thing you need is Prayer. Praying and believing that God has power over every situation, can reverse and make your dream come true.
Those my 50 cent tips. Hope they work for you.
Joy Meyers, New York
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That is right Joy.
- Yeah, "problem is not going away, ...consistently fighting over minor issues, ...both attended counseling,...not working". Albert Einstein said that, "the definition of insanity, is doing the same thing over and over, and expecting the same results".
1st Step: You need to start from a new foundation, with new knowledge and thinking style.
I like your advice Joy. She has to change the strategy. Thanks too, for believing and recommending that God has the power to help out if she dared to ask for help. God dares us every day by telling us that, "We have not, because we ask not".
I love the quality of knowledge shared on this blog. I learned a lot.
I'd advise you like my own blood brother, to get out of denial, and stop the guesswork. This book shares over 40,000 years of other people's experiences, and gives more than it is worth. Every single person should go to the nearest public library and borrow it. Every one should read this book.
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