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Listen Track #2, Dating Lessons from 280 Failed Marriages 
(The whole audio book, 13 Tracks - How to Choose Your True Lifetime Lover, is recommended for every special single who is dating today, and is interested in making the right decisions the first time.

            This study interviewed over 1,000 experienced adults ranging between the ages of 26 and 80 years old.  Among these interviewed adults were the successfully married, the unsuccessfully married, the adult singles who had quit looking for a lover, those who were still trying to find their mates, and a few who had completely changed their sexual behaviors to escape the deep pain that hit hard into their soul.  This study revealed all the incredible wealth of know-how that has been missing, and destroying so many families in our communities.

Let me tell you some of what I found.  Out of more than 1,000 adults interviewed, 280 adults had failed in marriage.  They had a lot of stories and experiences, and I will only share a few of the hard learned lessons they had in common.  Note that: the aim of sharing this information here is to empower you to understand HOW they failed, WHY they failed, and HOW you can use their experiences to enable you to make winning decisions to brighten your future.  Please, study these findings, because you will learn a lot:

1. At the time of tying the knot, each of those 280 adults believed that their marriage was going to last forever, but that did not happen!  They all learned this hard lesson; that being good and wanting to be successfully married is not enough on its own, because the success of your marriage truly depends on your husband or your wife.  They proved that you cannot sustain a love relationship single handedly; it takes two to succeed.  And therefore, it is important that you choose a lover who is right for you, and also finds you right to them; and I teach you HOW TO make a winning lifetime decision in my book, audio, and seminars.

2. They all rushed to fall in love, and failed to see the red flags which were right in their faces from the time they started dating.  They confessed that they were emotionally attached, and had hoped they would be able to change their former fiancée(s) habits after committing to them.  They learned this hard lesson, that you cannot successfully change another person if that person is not willing to change on their own.  They also learned that it is not smart to force a mismatch, because it will always lead to domestic violence and a future breakup.

3. They all regretted not knowing what they should have known in time, to make the right marital decisions.  They were instead consumed by the excitement of the new relationship, the sweet gifts, the new places to visit, and planning their wedding, before truly knowing or evaluating the person they were committing their love to.  They learned that regardless of your feelings, it is vital to control your love emotions and target your decisions towards meeting your long term needs.

4. They all confessed that it was a costly experience; and wished someone had taught them how to guard their hearts from the wrong person.  They learned that their hearts were truly the most precious possession they had.  But the other sad discovery was that, many of those whose hearts had been repeatedly bruised, had lost confidence, and preferred to stay as players because they were afraid of trusting or loving anyone again.

5. They were pained not by the divorce itself, but the fact that their divorce was preventable, had they learned how-to interpret the advance warning signs which they had seen during the pre-wedlock period.  They learned that making choices unthinkingly; and then hoping for the best, is being reckless with life.  You have to know what you are doing every step of the way in CHOOSING the right spouse.  You also have to know HOW TO KEEP her/him successfully; and I will show you how to do it successfully.

You see, just like you cannot keep an accurate track of your bank balances all in your head, you cannot rely on your memory alone to keep track of these important relationship decisions.  I studied 1,064 successfully and unsuccessfully married adults, and developed a decision-making tool that helps the Singles to visualize their marital future and minimize the influence of guesswork in making this important decision.  This decision-making tool guides and gives the user instant feedback to prevent a mismatch.   to guide you in making smart decisions in Choosing Your True Lifetime Lover.  It has all been documented, to teach you how-to avoid these common and painful marital mistakes.

My friend, making dating decisions basing on a 50/50 guess, is the root cause of today’s 50% divorce rate and the high domestic violence numbers.  Now you have all the answers you have always wanted to know.  Now you can make divorce and domestic violence plagues of the past.  And now is the best time to stop guessing, to stop cutting corners, and to stop making wrong assumptions.  This is a skill, and it is very easy to learn. 

There is no excuse for wasting time loving and marrying the wrong person and then divorcing later.  You can learn HOW-TO foresee and manage the risks in building a strong love relationship.  If you truly want to master this life-shaping skill, then you need to read this new value-adding book titled, 10 Steps to Success in Love and Marriage, Self-help Secrets for the Smart Lover,  by Alex Mugume.  You can now PREVIEW and also DOWNLOAD this workbook from the GOOGLE BOOK SEARCH program. 

In this book and audio, I share with you over 40,000 years of other people’s best learned lessons, to give you the deep understanding you need, to enable you to create a successful and joyful love relationship.   I believe that increased sharing of these study findings and solutions will reduce the high divorce numbers, domestic violence, and the endless pain that results from a bruised heart.  If you are interested in getting it right the first time, then you owe yourself this base knowledge, because it is not taught in most schools.  It's your time to make a choice.  If a rich and fulfilling love relationship is important to you, then you should learn how to use the 10 Step Smart Lover's Model .  Do not stay ignorant of this decision-making skill, because your future quality of love life depends on it!  

               Quality knowledge is a prerequisite for success, get it before it is too late.  Stop waiting to learn the hard way. Now is the time to stop making the 50/50 guesses, and all the self-sabotaging assumptions that lead to marital failure.  All the prerequisite dating lessons have been documented for you.  Now is your opportunity to choose what you are passionate about, success or failure?  Whatever you do, do not allow time to run out on you, like the 280 adults above who learned these lessons the hard way.  Take advantage of this available wisdom. Do not sabotage yourself. 

The 10 Steps to Success in Love and Marriage, belongs in the home of every Joyful Family.  Do not miss out on the wisdom you need to secure lifetime happiness for you and your Family.  You owe yourself this deep understanding of this decision making process.  Don't procrastinate. Don't leave it to chance.  Gain control now with this one-stop reference workbook.   Take this important first step, by ordering here at, http://www.abebooks.com/servlet/SearchResults?sts=t&an=Alex+Mugume&y=10&x=85 or from,  http://Shop.BestLovingSkills.com/