With the escalating divorce rate and loads of domestic violence cases, many people have resorted to using premarital agreements, to spell out how their assets will be split in case they need a divorce in the future.  They reason that it is better to secure the assets they acquired before the marriage, than to risk losing them if they divorce in the future.  However, this recent study is revealing that prenup use is not always the best strategy to apply. 

Here is why:

If both the husband and wife are ideal for each other, and they agree to the mutual needs of safeguarding against financial loss, then the prenup becomes a source of peace of mind to benefit both parties.  And this was especially true in circumstances where there is children’s property from the previous marriage, or where one had inherited assets with conditions that would be affected by a divorce.  In such special circumstances, a legal contract spelling out this (third party protection) is the right thing to do.

However, due to the high divorce rate, many people have lost their ability to trust.  Many have lost confidence in their ability to create a strong and lasting love relationship.  Many people are now focusing on protecting their wealth, on the suspicious assumption that their fiancé(e) could be a gold digger.  Many do not believe that their relationships will last the test of time.  Many assume that their fiancé(e) is out to get them, and all these negative beliefs and false assumptions are truly fueling marital failure.  Yes, a prenup protects the money, but it also programs the mind for failure. 

Here below are some of the dangers:

This study found that the party with fewer assets was always left wondering on which of the two agreements held more value (or was to be believed).  Was it the trial commitment (prenup) or a total commitment (marital vows)?  On one hand you have jointly become one in the spirit of family, but on the other hand you do not want to be a party to your spouse’s liabilities or problems, and s/he is not taking your 401k, your home, your assets, or your heart if s/he wants to quit anytime in the future. 

During this study, one prenup user who quit the relationship asked these questions: “How confident would you feel in a marriage where you are not trusted?  How would you feel if your spouse thought you were a gold digger waiting to quit in the future?  How joyful would you be in such a ‘love’ relationship?”  They had contradicting needs and expectations from their marriage; one wanted true love, and the other wanted to protect their assets from their spouse.  And later, when the husband suggested that they should get a baby, the wife asked him, “So how much will you pay me for carrying your child?”  Sounds fair enough?  Are these selfish motives?  Commercialized family spirit?  You be the judge.

Simply focusing on protecting yourself against financial loss, is now becoming a source of breakdown to many marriages.  There is a better way of managing marital risks, than transferring all the risks to the spouse with fewer assets.  Your interest should be to protect not only your money, but the core of the family and this includes full protection of your heart, your family, your legacy, and especially your family’s peace of mind!  And today, you have a simplified and lasting solution to this challenge. 

For the first time, you now have an indispensable decision making tool that guides you to foresee and manage the risks and uncertainties in building your love relationship.  You now have the quality knowledge and advice which has been missing.  You can easily gain the deep understanding you need to possess, to enable you to see the bigger picture, and to make lifetime winning decisions.  You do not have to waste time again loving and marrying the wrong person, and then divorcing later.  You do not have to settle for temporary success or failure.  You do not have to mismatch again.  Now is your turn to skillfully grow a lasting and fulfilling love relationship.

If you are interested in building a successful and lasting love relationship, you will be glad to learn how to make the right quality decisions the first time.  This essential decision-making skill is taught in detail in this relationship workbook titled, 10 Steps to Success in Love and Marriage; Self-Help Secrets for the Smart Lover.  It is the best resource for those successful people who desire to expand their mind with life-enriching knowledge they will use their whole life-long.  You will learn this consequential wisdom and how marriage is all predictable. 

Message to the Singles:

Fact remains that, it is cheaper to learn from reading other people's mistakes than to learn from your own dating mistakes with a broken heart.   

Why do you continue to sabotage your future by relying on the 50/50 guesses and reckless shortcuts?  Besides, there is simply too much information to process during the dating phase, and it is not smart to rely on your memory alone, if your goal is to get it right the first time.  

I am appealing to every Smart Single to learn how to take the guesswork out of dating and matching.  With this new dating skill, you'll also learn how to manage the risks and uncertainties before wedlock, instead of simply relying on a prenup.  If you are seriously interested in succeeding in today's dating world, then you must learn how to use the Smart Lover's Risk Exit Strategies as a first option before falling in love.  

You must learn how to use these two decision-making tools to ensure that you are making the right decisions at every stage of the dating process.  Please, STOP relying on your memory alone.  You cannot see the bigger picture without these decision-making tools! We are in the info age, if you can read, then there is no reason to bruise your heart again.

Remember, the more premarital knowledge you possess, the smarter the decisions you'll make.  So before you think of signing a prenup to protect you if you divorce, I'd advise you to learn how to avoid dating and falling in love with the wrong people.  First things first.  First, you guard your heart from the wrong people, and then you guard the assets next.  You should learn how to make lifetime winning decisions, before you rush to date or fall in love.  

If you are interested in learning how to guard your heart, then you'll be glad to get the Dating Solution.  I believe that this is the best dating guide on planet earth; it tells you, step 1 do this, step 2 do this, step 3 do this, and so up to Step 9 of the dating process.  You can't go wrong. The Dating Solution arms you with the vital insights and the answers to these and hundreds of other dating questions you've always wanted to know.

Simply stated, you do not have to repeat these painful marital mistakes, and then divorce later.  The Dating Solution contains the missing knowledge that spells the difference between a successful love relationship and a failed one.  There is no reason to stay in denial.  This is the life-shaping knowledge we missed learning in school.  Now is the best time to invest in yourself, shorten your learning curve, and enrich your dating experience.  Master this new dating skill, and you'll agree that, "Divorce and domestic violence are plagues of the past."

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About the Author:

Alex Mugume is a Dating Teacher.  He teaches Smart Singles how to find their True Husband or True Wife from a Large Database of Singles. He is on a mission to make divorce and domestic violence plagues of the past.  He is also the author of "10 Steps to Success in Love and Marriage; Self-Help Secrets for the Smart Lover",  "How to Choose Your True Lifetime Lover from a Large Database of Singles", and "Success Mindsets for the Winning Couple".  Alex  is available for seminar engagements and personal consultations. Details at, http://www.SkillfulDating.com


P.S. This study revealed that there is nothing more frustrating on this planet than loving and marrying the wrong person.  Therefore, I am requesting you to tell your friends about this useful dating advice. Save them from the pain of divorce, domestic violence, an empty shell marriage, and a Life full of regrets.  Help them to build  richer love relationships, JOYFUL FAMILIES and better communities.  Keep them ahead of the game.  Send them this link by e-mail. 

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Remember this: 

1. Don't stay in the dark.  Invest in your future. Learn how to make lifetime winning decisions!
2. Marital illiteracy is very expensive.  Dating is a skill, please, stop the guesses.
3. It is cheaper to read than to learn from your own dating mistakes, with a broken heart, divorce, DV, etc.
4. The answers you need are all documented for you in the Dating Solution.